Counselling is a big step towards growth & you’re excited to begin. But you may find yourself unable to talk in therapy.
What’s the point of talk counselling without the talking?
There are many strategies to help you get the best of and be able to talk more freely while in session.
Here are a few.
Write it down: One of the easiest ways to help overcome your fear or inability to talk in therapy is to write down some things that are important to you to talk about before session. Jot it down on a piece of paper, or keep a “therapy journal” even of topics or areas of your life that you want to talk about, but you just find it difficult. Bring those to session, open them up, and you can pick a topic for the day.
Let us guide you: A counsellor’s main job is to guide you in your recovery and healing process. They are not there necessarily to give you all the solutions, but help you find your own path to those solutions (counsellors use specific skills and techniques that can help you better understand your moods and thoughts and even problem solving processes).
Reset your expectations: Some people believe you need to go into your weekly therapy session with a “topic” to discuss. Of course sometimes that may be the case; especially if the counsellor has given you homework on a specific subject or topic — it may also be that each session may already be full. Therapy would give you little to no benefit if you end up going into every session and keep talking non-stop for 45 minutes. Remember, you’re not there to entertain your counsellor, or to tell stories to maintain their interest. You’re actually there to do real work, some of which will involve talking about the past week in your life, but not to an extent or in so much heavy detail that it overshadows the reason you’re in therapy to begin with.
Your counsellors are your closest confidante you can ever share anything with: In childhood, we often have a best friend or two we felt like we could share anything with. Sometimes we maintain these friendships, and other times they might fade away. Counsellors are your adult equivalent of someone you can share almost anything with (except for some things that are illegal). That is a part of the special joy of a counselling relationship. Here is a person who you can share everything with, about yourself, and they won’t judge, they won’t insult or berate, and they won’t just leave you unexpectedly. It’s a valuable and a unique relationship that there for your benefit to take advantage of as much as you can!
Here are a few questions you should be prepared for before counseling session
Questions about your age, education, family, workplace
Relationships – Your personal and professional relationships
Problems or difficulties – Though not everyone opts for counseling when in distress, there are usually some things in life either causing you trouble or difficulties or frustration
Your personality – Your hobbies, likes, dislikes, habbits, how you try to solve certain problems etc.
- Omkar Naik